I've been thinking a lot lately about judgment....no, not judgment that involves hell fire and damnation, but the kind of judgment that can be so flagrantly present in our thoughts and conversations. I am tempted to continue on saying that "we do this' and "we do that" but I'll refrain from that judgment and speak only for myself!
Something happens. For example, a car pulls out in front of me. Or, I have to make more changes in my dissertation. Or, I can't get my gas logs to work. Or, it rains, or the sun shines, or it is cold, or it is hot. Something happens, and I assign a value to it. This is good. This is better. This is bad. This is worse. Often, I will think it necessary to express my judgment with a few more opinions thrown in, just in case my point did not come across clearly.
A colleague recently said, "I am learning that I don't have to have a judgment for everything." Wow! He is right. I don't have to have a judgment either, and even when I do, I certainly do not have to make it public. Can you imagine keeping an opinion to yourself??? Who does such a wild and crazy thing?
But, the truth is, when I judge something as good or bad, I feel either good or bad. When I make my judgment public, I bring you into my feeling, for better or for worse. And, sometimes things are not so easily labeled. Somethings things just ARE. "It is what it is" is a saying that holds much truth.
It is not good. It is not bad. It simply is what it is. I am going to try to remember that.